Sadly not much success?

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Southern Girl

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Post Mon Sep 13, 2004 1:31 pm

Sadly not much success?

This room seems so empty, compared to the other forums on this board. It saddens me to think our success are so small.

Today, I am really wanting to see some long-term success stories. Sigh.
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paranoid

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Post Mon Sep 13, 2004 1:52 pm

Well, I'm almost scared to say anything, but the Roid is not around much. I think he may be working a second job - to keep even one job is so unlike him. But I may have him scared to declare bankruptcy, and his car isn't home much. Or else he's cheating with a gf on the gf. I don't care, I just need him away from me.

Which it seems he is, mostly.

So, kinda successful. Best it's been in six years, and no vsndalism that I know of.

Whew. Hope I didn't jinx this...
Virginal Cindy the upright and stalwart
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Motheroftwo

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Post Mon Sep 13, 2004 2:25 pm

Well, I wouldn't call mine a long term success story yet, I am still counting in days, weeks, and months, although creeping up on years.

Its been nine days since the freak has tried to call me.

Its been five weeks since he got that stupid cell phone and he hasn't managed to drive me nuts with the calls yet.

Its been over four months since the last time I sent my daughter for visitation with the freak and there have been no legal consequences or violent reactions from the freak.

Its been over a year since our divorce was final.

Its coming up on the third anniversary of my freedom, January will be the third year living away from the freak.
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~evilanne

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Post Mon Sep 13, 2004 6:36 pm

I'm hoping 107 will be my lucky number...I'll explain more later but keep your fingers crossed
Happy Trails :)
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lizbeth

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Post Tue Sep 14, 2004 6:45 am

Well, I was stalked by my ex-husband after our sepraration and divorce years ago and that did stop, so I suppose that is a success story. It stopped because I called his bluff and he turned his attention to Stevie Nicks, the singer, as he got more deranged. Later, when son turned 18, I pulled NO CONTACT, though I didn't know that is what it was called at the time.
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Monolith

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Post Tue Sep 14, 2004 9:27 am

That's pretty bad. I saw Stevie Nicks in a bar about 10 years ago, and she looked like 10 miles of bad road.
Whatever tears one may shed, in the end one always blows one's nose.
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lizbeth

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Post Tue Sep 14, 2004 11:25 am

That is why he stopped stalking her. He had this entire fantasy life going on in his head once he realized he could no longer frighten me. The first day we realized he was going off the deep end for real is when he told my son that Stevie Nicks was going to be his step mother. He thought she was talking to him through her songs on the radio. We actually have letters he wrote to her (not mailed for some reason though he did mail plenty, along with gifts) that my son found in his room during a visit and brought back home for me to read. Totally crazy. He went from a simple obsession stalker to an erotomania stalker. The letters were starting to sound angry as she was not responding to him as he imagined she should be.

He was arrested on the way to one of her concerts for something, drunk driving, I think, but I think eventually he would have tried to harm her, except he finally did get to see her in person at a concert, up close, and she was heavy and her face was showing what the years of substance abuse had done to her. Stupid fool thought she would still be what the airbrushed album covers and vidoes showed. That turned him right the hell off, his persuit dropped to occassional mentions of her to family members, and they just told him to shut up, they didn't want to hear about it again.

Now he just sits in his rented room and whines to my son (when he visits him) about how lonely he is. Son tells him he doens't want to hear it, it ruined everything good he ever had, he doesn't do anything to improve his life and he got what he wanted, to be left alone and collect disability insurance. SOB tried to collect SS on my earnings, but we were married only 10 years. He's finding his diliberate sabotage of his excellent job when we separated to avoid paying me child support is going to cost him at retirement time, he has 20 years of zeros on his SS earnings record, too bad.

Life is good sometimes.
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Motheroftwo

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Post Tue Sep 14, 2004 12:21 pm

OMG, I think I was married to your ex, lizbeth! Except I don't think he has gotten over his thing for Stevie Nicks, LOL!

He has thrown his business completely in the toilet and is working on a disability claim, I am sure to avoid child support. So what happened in your case, were you able to get any kind of support for your son? The freak hasn't worked enough on paper to qualify for the SS benefit, just the need-based, pay nothing for dependents disability. Did your son see any of that whopping payment?
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paranoid

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Post Tue Sep 14, 2004 4:46 pm

OMG, Stevie Nicks and the Roid, too!!! OMG!!! What is that about?
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lizbeth

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Post Tue Sep 14, 2004 5:08 pm

You all have to be kidding me? Is Stevie Nicks some sort of stalkers dream? The little girl lispy voice and the wispy ultra feminine clothing? What a riot!!!!!

Anyway, about the disability. At the time of my divorce, the judge did not force child support payment through social services (it was not common at that time), so he stopped paying. Sh*thead (my pet name for my ex) had a college degree and worked for the Govt. When we split up, he DELIBERATELY (he told me he was going to do this) started drinking and taking drugs so he could lose his mind and force them to give him disability payments based on the fact that when he was in the army during the Vietnam era he had PTSD from hearing guns while he was on a ship passing Vietnam on the way to his station in Korea. I kid you not. He snorted all his retirement money that he withdrew (half of which was supposed to go to me) up his nose, on purpose.

He was already so paranoid and weird about his closet gayness and inability to work with people in an office enviornment that he had been forced to see a govt. shrink after threatening people at work. He felt someone had to "pay" for him "losing his family", why not his job or the Army. (Needless the say, he "lost his family" because he was an N due to damage from his totally screwed up family but he would not deal with that, he just had to blame someone).

Eventually he made himself enough of a pest or they considered him dangerous enough that they gave him the disability just to get rid of him. I never saw a dime of it. I got my house in trade for the back child support he owed me for the years he didn't pay me, not knowing at the time he had signed it over to me that he had illegallly encumbered it with the Dept. of Social Services in NY State (where he had moved some time after our split) by lying at the time he applied for temporary welfare that we were still together, etc. We were divorced and he was not allowed to do what he did. Years later I found out when trying to refinance the house what he had done and had to pay a lawyer several thousand dollars to fight the state to get rid of the lien as it was illegal.

He did start paying child support at some point, but that was after years of me having to work like a dog, some times until 3 am, to support my sons (I also had a child with husband #1 who paid very little support as well). My son with sh*thead told him off one time telling him that not only did he lose his father to his inability to grow up, he lost his mother to having to work 18 hours a day to feed him. That did make him feel "guilty" enough that he has paid for his college education. He is still paying for it now, son is back home temporarily at 25 to finish up his last year of school. I went through bankruptcy and years of poverty because of these two "fathers" but have come out on top of both of them, which is really amazing to me.

Lizbeth
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paranoid

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Post Tue Sep 14, 2004 5:38 pm

closet gayness, OMG, I swear, these are all the same man!!!
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lizbeth

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Post Tue Sep 14, 2004 5:52 pm

Well, if all three of these closet queen stevie nicks stalking lunatics are the same, where did they get the extra time, I have only 24 hours in my day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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paranoid

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Post Tue Sep 14, 2004 5:58 pm

Mayhaps this is what all the paranoia around stem cell research is about? Closet cloning by an evil scientist?
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lizbeth

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Post Tue Sep 14, 2004 6:09 pm

Has to be evil if they pick a misfit like my sh*thead to clone. I mean, why the hell bother?
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paranoid

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Post Tue Sep 14, 2004 6:14 pm

Yep, I coul;d go for that Dr. from hertigovania or whatever on ER. That's a good clone prospect there.... :wink:
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Motheroftwo

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Post Wed Sep 15, 2004 8:01 am

Yep, closet gayness here too. And here they think they are so special and unique.

You'll never find another man like me, babe.

LOL, apparently there are plenty of assholes out there with suppressed homosexual urges, a fascination with Stevie Nicks, and pedophilic tendencies.
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Monolith

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Post Wed Sep 15, 2004 8:10 am

Our stalker (who was married to my wife years ago) had a thing for putting on her underwear and walking around the house.

I hope that he trips up and gets sent to prison, where he won't get the courtesy of a reacharound.
Whatever tears one may shed, in the end one always blows one's nose.
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halcion69

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Post Wed Sep 15, 2004 2:01 pm

i have a small success story i spose. it's been over two months since he's contacted me. he has totally disappeared. no one even asks about him anymore. my mom no longer sees his car where he used to live so maybe he's moved. i hope so. maybe it's finally over.
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paranoid

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Post Wed Sep 15, 2004 3:41 pm

fingers crossed, hal. Isn't it funny how you're almost scared to say this out loud?
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lizbeth

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Post Wed Sep 15, 2004 3:51 pm

Motheroftwo wrote:Yep, closet gayness here too. And here they think they are so special and unique.

You'll never find another man like me, babe.

LOL, apparently there are plenty of assholes out there with suppressed homosexual urges, a fascination with Stevie Nicks, and pedophilic tendencies.


No pedophelia with mine as far as I know, thank God!
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Southern Girl

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Post Thu Sep 16, 2004 9:51 am

Closet gayness????

Uh oh. You know, I've long secretly wondered whether Jerkbait doesn't have those tendencies. And it isn't just me...others have mentioned this. Do you think there's some correlation? I was just shocked to read that, and then see some chiming in.

Wow.

On the pedophilia...the only thing I ever found was, right after we first got a computer with internet access, he'd downloaded a bunch of pictures of yourn girs where you could see underwear (crotch shots, they looked like peeping tom photos). These were in the cache, and he claimed it was from some agressive popups, and that he hadn't sought them out. OK. Whatever.
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paranoid

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Post Thu Sep 16, 2004 12:23 pm

Yep, in the Roid, young girls. also, just a bit, Asian women Which can also be about yearning for boys. I think they are insecure in their sexuality, and seem at the same time preoccupied with sex and also not so hot as sexual partners. Narcissists like to masturbate, self-explanatory. Supression, inhibitions, I know the Roid was infinitely concerned about something, and some actions pointed to homophobia.
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~evilanne

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Post Thu Sep 16, 2004 6:35 pm

he claimed it was from some agressive popups, and that he hadn't sought them out


Heard that line before when we lived in Virginia and I found porn photos in the Cache. About the time I gave him notice that he had until the end of the year (Sept 2001) I found some stuff on the computer again...interesting how the site knew he liked women from the Philippines, where his first wife was from :roll:
Happy Trails :)
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Motheroftwo

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Post Fri Sep 17, 2004 10:53 am

:roll:
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paranoid

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Post Fri Sep 17, 2004 11:32 am

Kay, I am just going crazy. I've googled asian pedophilia research etc., trying to find something substancial on the link between perfering asian women and repressed urges for children/boys. I feel I'm a good searcher, but obviously I'm missing something. Any suggestions?
Virginal Cindy the upright and stalwart
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