hi my name is thelma

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thelma

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Post Fri Jul 16, 2004 5:26 pm

Funny? I knew the instant I viewed it what is meant by rape being an act of violence/power.
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Lone Ranger

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Post Fri Jul 16, 2004 5:36 pm

Well, thelma, I seriously doubt his wife would be able to identify him from the video - if he was a real man, maybe. But then, if he was a real man, he'd be finding a whole lot better things to do - as in getting a life. There are so many things to do in this world - not just for ourselves, but for others, and the world at large. What does this so-called person who's been harrassing you, contribute to any of the above- mentioned causes ? Clearly the answer is nothing, otherwise he'd be busy, way way too busy to be wasting time bothering you. The next deduction is that he does not have anything useful to contribute in the first place. At least my stalker had a quarter of a brain to work with - they realized they could not win, they couldn't break me, and they realized just how utterly pathetic they were - and quit. :idea:
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~evilanne

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Post Fri Jul 16, 2004 6:24 pm

Thelma I know it is tramatizing...it is one of those things you can't do anything with because it is just so perverted...it is like Paranoid's Roid putting cigarette butts in her yard because they make you the crazy one. You can't post a poster saying do you recognize this penis because the police would be after you for posting pornographic material. Giving a copy to the to the wife might be an option. It is real evidence...but can you imagine them trying to use it? It is so bizarre.
Happy Trails :)
evilanne
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thelma

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Post Fri Jul 16, 2004 7:01 pm

Evilanne, I've been educated enough about this subject to know that one piece of evidence does not warrant a conviction. But five years of documentation, witnesses to events can. As for computer evidence there is much more that investigators can do at present. In fact it's kind of amazing what they can do. I keep everything. When I present my case I want it to warrant not a slap on the wrist but prison time. A simple...he drives by my place everyday....isn't what I'll hit him with..trust me on that.
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~evilanne

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Post Sat Jul 17, 2004 7:51 pm

BAT....I have no doubt that you are knowledgeable and have the documentation to build a solid case. I hope that you get the justice you are seeking.
Happy Trails :)
evilanne
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thelma

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Post Sun Jul 18, 2004 11:18 pm

Women have described stalking as one long rape. It is a violation of your privacy in so many ways and so I think the word rape is a fitting one. Talking and writing and venting about this is a good thing (to use Marthas' slogan haha), and after a while it loses its power or diminishes it. I don't know if this will be my last post here but this site has served its purpose for me.
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Motheroftwo

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Post Mon Jul 19, 2004 10:06 am

I agree, stalking is like one long rape. I hada to attent co-parenting classes with my stalker. Imagine sitting across the table being taught how to communicate in a productive manner with your rapist. Nice, huh?

I am glad that you found what you needed here. Consider sticking around to offer your advice and the benefit of your experiences to other victims, please.
Mother of two
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Chazzy

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Post Mon Jul 19, 2004 10:44 am

Walking off the dance floor can be a few short steps or a very long journey. It is all a process. Part of the process is finding the kindred spirits who give you the emotional support. And sometimes the final encouragement. To keep walking off the dance floor and not look back.

In reading all the stories of those who have managed to get their cases to court, the thing I find most interesting is that "the law" never looks at the one thing defined as "evidence" in the law itself. The fear.

What does it say to stalking victims in this country when a judge orders a victim to attend classes with someone who has stalked her?

If anyone ever puts up a "WANTED" website for us, I hope you post the judge on it as well as the stalker. The judge is the worst of the two.
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thelma

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Post Mon Jul 26, 2004 8:01 am

I do have some invaluable advice. Most of these men are mentally ill; at least Guy is. Once you have a police officer who sees that he/she knows what they are dealing with. Report everything. He reminds me of a monkey. Mindless monkey business is what he does. Annoying, sure; but I have a background in psychiatric care so I have some understanding of the working or shall I say malfunction of his mind. He's quite functional in his life but one can imagine how disturbed he really is. Finding a constable and her superior who see and understand this has been, invaluable.
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thelma

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Post Mon Jul 26, 2004 9:59 am

Guy,

I will pursue this not just for my own need for justice to be served, but for your daughters future well being. If you knew more about the psychological issues you have you would realize you are the perfect candidate to commit child abuse. You are unable to understand boundaries and are a high risk to carry this problem within your own family and the danger is exemplified when your daughers reach adolesence. I couldn't live with myself to do nothing knowing what I know about this issue. And no it's not personal experience; I am blessed with having had a father who, despite his shortcomings, was a man I respected and has taught me to stand up for what I believe.
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thelma

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Post Fri Aug 13, 2004 12:51 pm

Venting on this site and especially to the man responsible has been invaluable. If this had not happened I would not be where I am today and I have never been as content and happy as I am now. I can see how this experience has taught me so much about men and now when I meet someone I am much more aware of potential issues he may have. It has strengthened my relationships with other people. You can't change a persons' behavior only your reaction to it. Everything happens for a reason and now I understand and am grateful for the experience and all that I've learned. The turning point for me has been the involvement of the police department and all they do in supporting me. Justice doesn't always mean what we think it will. Sometimes it has nothing to do with slapping the wrist of another and all to do with you living a wonderful life.
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thelma

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Post Fri Aug 13, 2004 1:32 pm

I want to thank the Constable in charge of my case for all the help you have given me and for taking the time to read this site to gain a better understanding of me and this situation.
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Post Fri Aug 13, 2004 1:51 pm

Hey, thelma, way to go, girlfriend. Lemonaide.
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thelma

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Post Sun Aug 22, 2004 10:06 pm

the end is near

Violence Against Women

Article in the paper this weekend describes how a woman was doused with gasoline and lit on fire by her estranged boyfriend in front of her two young children.

Friend of mine has a twenty one year old daughter who is pathologically addicted to a man who beats her has her hooking for income to feed their crack habit.

I asked my brother a successful highly respected MD how he felt turning fifty and he said...fine .. the end is near. We laughed but I know he meant it and I agree.

There are some really good men in this world but the bad ones can really make it stink sometimes.
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Motheroftwo

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Post Mon Aug 23, 2004 9:53 am

So true. I know of several that are currently stinking up the joint!
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thelma

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Post Wed Aug 25, 2004 9:14 am

I want to share with you the image I have of you. I don't think about you much and when I do it is this: you tucking your daughters into bed. It starts with an uncomfortable feeling in my gut then nausea and I fight the urge to vomit. It's knowing a crime will be committed and the helplessness felt knowing I can't do anything about it. Empathy is a stranger to you and your conscience has taken a leave of absence. Your crimes are always committed in darkness and usually without witnesses. You walk away..smug and empowered by your cunning. Your aura is black. You are so very ugly.
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gnomenomad

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Post Wed Aug 25, 2004 3:50 pm

hi thelma - your last post touched... you're so right. btw -i'm gnome.

I want to share with you the image I have of you. I don't think about you much and when I do it is this: you tucking your daughters into bed. It starts with an uncomfortable feeling in my gut then nausea and I fight the urge to vomit. It's knowing a crime will be committed and the helplessness felt knowing I can't do anything about it. Empathy is a stranger to you and your conscience has taken a leave of absence. Your crimes are always committed in darkness and usually without witnesses. You walk away..smug and empowered by your cunning. Your aura is black. You are so very ugly.


i was 'striken' again today.. i am absolutely miffed. as to why? i don't understand at all. all i see is darkness & and complete sadness.
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thelma

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Post Wed Aug 25, 2004 5:33 pm

I take my sensitivity as a gift and most of my life it has been that. I have dreams and visions of what is to come and sometimes it is just a gut feeling. I can't imagine life without this ability. I can still hear my father looking at me with concern and telling me not to be so sensitive. Like empathy you either have it in you or you don't, it's not a decision. You are right this man is very dark and very sad. And I am not.
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thelma

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Post Sun Sep 05, 2004 10:39 pm

terrorists/stalkers/rapists/killers///one and the same

I don't walk around angry. I'm a friendly and warm person; it's in my nature. But I'm different than I was. I know now that the person living next door to you, or the guy driving a car next to you, or a man you say hello to as he passes by could be someone deranged and could be someone out to harm you. I've taken self-defense courses in the past and left doubting I could actually dig my nails into someones' eyeballs. Or hit the many vulnerable spots a man has enough to maime and even kill. I doubted I had what it would take to hurt another human being even if he was obviously out to hurt me. Not anymore. We have to get over that hansy pansy attitude; we don't live in a hansy pansy world. We live in a world of terrorists of all kinds and we have to protect ourselves our families our lives. We were told in one course to visualize an attack; visualize our response to the attack and I never could; I didn't want to. It's easy now.
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thelma

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Post Sun Sep 05, 2004 11:29 pm

So, Guy, after you lament over the tragedy in Russia, after all the philosophical writing and talking with your wife and friends about it, after you tuck your precious little ones to bed, kiss your sweet wife goodnight, I want you to go look in the mirror and know..you are cut from the same cloth as they. Power is what you and they seek. It is a sickness of which there is no cure.
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thelma

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Post Thu Oct 14, 2004 11:57 pm

nothing pretty about it

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paranoid

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Post Fri Oct 15, 2004 10:49 am

Well, I don't plan on getting on BAT's bad side!!!
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