Rex and Diane, I want to thank you so much! I appreciate your advice. I have to admit I have been so nervous in the past few days...I was even being paranoid about using my real first name to post on here, afraid "they" would somehow find me here. That's something I'm having to fight with a lot that I bet all of you have to deal with too...being so upset by the stalking behavior that you don't feel safe anywhere. <BR> <BR>Anyway, unfortunately the stalking-type behavior seems to have escalated over the past few days. My aunt and uncle have my last name and live in the same state. I spend a lot of time with them and in fact lived with them at one point. I worry about because they are fairly elderly, but I did warn them about the possible phone calls before they happened and so when my uncle answered the first call he knew enough to say it was a wrong number and that they didn't know anyone named Dottie. <BR> <BR>Anyway, they went away for a vacation last week. Unfortunately they had a family friend housesitting who unwittingly answered the phone when another call from "them" came through. The person asked for Dottie and the family friend, not knowing the situation, just said to try back again this week. <BR> <BR>Now they must know that despite my uncle saying it was a wrong number the first time they called, there is in fact a link with that phone number. I'm guessing that they either did a paid Internet search on me, which would show me having lived at my aunt and uncle's address within the past 5 years, or they narrowed in on my aunt and uncle because they are among the few people with that last name in the area. <BR> <BR>Anyway, my aunt called me last night to say that they returned to SEVEN MESSAGES on their answering machine, six from the same woman who had called originally, and one from a man who left a message saying that he and the woman were trying to reach me and concerned about me and wanted to talk to me right away. He left a number for me to call back. <BR> <BR>So now I am in a bad situation because my aunt and uncle, understandably, are not happy at being dragged into this. They don't want to change their number (also understandably) but they don't want the calls to continue. I offered to step in and call or write these people and tell them to leave me and my family alone (to answer your question, Diane, it is the same 2 people who keep trying to contact me consistently, but they are also in touch with about 10-15 other people from the online group. It's sort of like these two have become the "spokespeople". I used to write to them pretty often though we never talked on the phone; I actually thought they were the most harmless of the bunch, I'm sad to say. What scares me is that they seem to be operating under the "orders" of a new and seemingly violent, demanding person, whom I had heard of but never corresponded with directly before.) but my aunt and uncle don't want me to confirm in ANY way that their number is linked to me. They are afraid that the calls will just continue with demands being made to provide my contact information. <BR> <BR>My aunt says that the next time a call comes in (which I'm sure it will) she is just going to firmly say that there is no Dottie living at that residence and not to call again. In the meantime, Diane, I did consider your suggestion of writing an e-mail or messageboard post stating simply but firmly that I have moved on and do not wish to be contacted. However, the problem with that is that these people will, I am pretty sure, be so excited about the fact that I have "reappeared" and responded to their efforts that they will redouble their attempts to contact me, if only just to find out WHY I don't want to talk to them anymore. <BR> <BR>The other problem is that if I respond in any way to the web site, phone calls, etc., I am confirming that 1. yes, my aunt and uncle are related to me and 2. I am reading the tribute they have set up - in other words, that I have taken the bait they set out. I just don't want to do that. I would like to believe that it's just simple concern for my well-being that is prompting this, but I don't buy that, because it's been more than a year since I was in touch and the intense attempts at rekindling contact are only just flaring up again recently. And besides, if you are just concerned about a Net friend, would you look up their family's personal contact information and call 9 times?! <BR> <BR>As for the web site, thank you again for the great ideas, Diane. I really think they would work well if the situation were any less strange and complicated. But unfortunately, since I did let the e-mail account expire on its own, technically they did not do anything illegal by claiming it as their own. Likewise since I gave up access to the account, I also gave up access to the web domain, so I can't do anything about their having it and I can't even prove that I am the "rightful" owner. I also fear that getting the site and account closed would prompt more of a frenzied reaction from them. <BR> <BR>What I'm really afraid of is that the attempts at contact will not only not cease, but start to become violent and angry as they realize I am deliberately avoiding them. I am most fearful of that anger being targeted at my family, since they may be seen as the "gatekeepers" blocking access to me if these people don't believe my aunt and uncle's claims of a wrong number. <BR> <BR>I realize I'm not leaving many options open and I want to state again how much I do appreciate any and all advice from you. I have been looking forward to my new job and new house...I have only given the address and phone # out to the closest of close friends and family, and the number will be unpublished, so I'm not really afraid of anyone hunting down that information. I'm also following this site's advice and opening a P.O. Box that I will use for all bills, subscriptions, etc. But I am afraid that my family will continue to be harassed, and I am afraid that this WON'T just die out and go away. <BR> <BR>Thank you again for trekking through these long, long messages of mine, and thank you most for caring.