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***STALKING***

Surviving a Stalker: Everything You Need to Know to Keep Yourself Safe

by Linden Gross

Currently, there are limited resources documenting and detailing the dangers of and solutions to the burgeoning problem of stalking. In this revised and updated version of her book, To Have or To Harm, the first book ever written about the stalking of ordinary people, Gross profiles cases that dramatically reveal the extensive dimensions of the problem. Her analysis helps clarify a dynamic infused with misinformation and confusion. In addition to profiling stalkers and their victims, Surviving a Stalker: Everything You Need to Know to Keep Yourself Safe delves deeper into the subject, covering police and legal issues, behavioral and psychological patterns that lead to an escalation of violence, the approach the Los Angeles Police Department has pioneered to address the problem, and how victims can best deal with being stalked.

The Gift of Fear : Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence

by Gavin De Becker

Gavin de Becker, the nation's leading expert on predicting violent behavior, proves that we are all qualified to answer life's highest-stakes questions. "True fear is a gift," he says, because it is a survival signal that sounds only in the presence of danger; yet unwarranted fear has assumed a power over us that it holds over no other creature on earth. It need not be this way. In this book, de Becker shows that you can already predict violent behavior. Through dozens of compelling stories from his own career, he lays out the pieces of the human violence puzzle and shows how you can solve it by paying attention to the subtle-and sometimes blatant-signals of intuition. As he says, "You can refuse to be a victim." Filled with unique and surprising insights into human behavior, The Gift of Fear will help you separate real from imagined danger, give you confidence in a sometimes threatening world, and make your life measurably safer.

Stopping a Stalker : A Cop's Guide to Making the System Work for You

by R. L. Snow (Editor)

From Booklist , May 1, 1998:

to avoid and discourage stalkers, and case histories abound. Snow breaks down stalking into more specific kinds of threatening behavior, including "cause," "revenge," "serial," and "electronic" brands of stalking. He even covers the "unintentional and third-party victims of stalking." His writing is controlled, spare yet descriptive, and, most important for true-crime appeal, documented. In the case histories, for the most part, he gives dates, names, and specifies places. For the purpose of a grim guide to life or as background material on current crime trends, it would be hard to beat the facts, clear narratives, and sound advice that Snow provides.

Stalking : A Handbook for Victims

by Emily Spence-Diel

The author herself describes her book: "This book is a practical and easy-to-read guide designed to help victims of stalking renew their quality of life and turn the tide against the stalker. It is written under the guiding belief that knowledge is power. The book contains hundreds of pragmatic suggestions based upon the author's research and extensive experience working directly with stalking victims. It provides a review of stalker profiles, safety strategies, tips to build a prosecutable case and ideas to help victims recover from the trauma of being tormented and followed. Given the short attention span that often accompanies traumatic experiences, this book is purposefully short and divided between several segments that are easy to digest and quick to read."

The Psychology of Stalking : Clinical and Forensic Perspectives

by J. Reid Meloy (Editor)

A reader from Nebraska writes:

An excellent academic resource for studying stalking Meloy's book provides a thorough analysis of stalking from the top researchers and practitioners in the field. It presents a variety of theoretical conceptualizations on this crime from several different professions (e.g. psychology, criminal justice, private security). This book is comprehensive and well organized. In a field that is often over-run with "pop-psychology" and "true crime" novels, this books provides a truly academic resource for persons who research stalking or work in the threat assessment field. It is a MUST BUY for all professionals concerned with the crime of stalking.

The Stalking of Kristin : A Father Investigates the Murder of His Daughter

by George Lardner Jr.

"This is Kristin's story. I'd give anything not to have written it." Kristin Lardner's father won a Pulitzer Prize for a series of Washington Post articles about this promising young art student who was killed by a jealous ex-boyfriend. In this expanded book version he makes the important point that Kristin did everything right. She was educated and sophisticated, and had the time and resources to make the law work for her. And she was a member of the class of people who believe the law when it promises to protect them. With a parent's rage, and an impressive command of the facts and statistics, George Lardner refutes the widespread belief that the courts offer effective protection to battered women who do report their abusers and press charges. The book includes photos of Kristin's artwork about abuse of women and 80 pages of footnotes and bibliography about the legal system.

I Know You Really Love Me : A Psychiatrist's Journal of Erotomania, Stalking, and Obsessive Love

by Doreen R. Orion M.D.

Erotomania is the most bizarre disorder of obsessive stalkers - the delusional belief that their victims are actually in love with them. I Know You Really Love Me unfolds like a psychological thriller, as Orion finds herself engulfed in Fran's erotomanic fantasy and unsuccessfully tries to free herself of her patient, pseudonym Fran. This demanding, calculating woman doggedly follows Orion state-to-state, and continues to stalk her to this day - eight years and counting. In this painfully honest account you will follow the victim as she struggles to regain control over both her personal and professional lives. In the process, she educates herself about this little-understood mental disorder and meets other victims. She includes case histories of stalking victims, from David Letterman and Madonna to a woman rabbi, an Olympic athlete, and scores of others; unbelievable true stories of the depths to which the wily stalker will go - such as "The Tunneler," who dug his way beneath an apartment building to get at his victim; cases that led to murder, of either the victim or the stalker. In a final section the author discusses the need for adequate treatment and punishment of erotomanics, and points out problems in existing anti-stalking laws and ways to strengthen them. A guide to organizations that assist victims, plus protective measures to deter a potential stalker or erotomanic, are provided as well.

***PERSONAL SAFETY***

Surviving a Stalker: Everything You Need to Know to Keep Yourself Safe

by Linden Gross

Currently, there are limited resources documenting and detailing the dangers of and solutions to the burgeoning problem of stalking. In this revised and updated version of her book, To Have or To Harm, the first book ever written about the stalking of ordinary people, Gross profiles cases that dramatically reveal the extensive dimensions of the problem. Her analysis helps clarify a dynamic infused with misinformation and confusion. In addition to profiling stalkers and their victims, Surviving a Stalker: Everything You Need to Know to Keep Yourself Safe delves deeper into the subject, covering police and legal issues, behavioral and psychological patterns that lead to an escalation of violence, the approach the Los Angeles Police Department has pioneered to address the problem, and how victims can best deal with being stalked.

Defending Our Lives : Getting Away from Domestic Violence and Staying Safe

by Susan Murphy-Milano

This is one of the first books to offer practical, step-by-step advice to battered women on how to protect themselves from violent abuse in the home. Author Susan Murphy-Milano is the founder of Project: Protect and is one of the most visible and vocal advocates for victims of domestic violence.

Thousands of women are abused, battered, stalked, and killed by their husbands, boyfriends, lovers, and partners every year. While the O. J. Simpson trial raised domestic abuse to the forefront of public consciousness, no one has offered women concrete advice on how to protect themselves and get safely away from their abusers. In Defending Our Lives, Susan Murphy-Milano, the founder of Project:Protect, presents the first comprehensive guide to the options available to battered women as well as to the family and friends who want to help them. With detailed, practical information, Murphy-Milano guides women through the process of protecting themselves from domestic violence and stalking. She explains what domestic violence is, how to deal with the police and enlist their help, how to make the decision to leave, what steps to take during the actual move, how to secure one's home after leaving an abuser, how to navigate the legal system, how to ensure the safety of one's children, and how to defend against stalking. Family and friends can be crucial in this process, and throughout the book Murphy-Milano suggests numerous ways in which they can help. Defending Our Lives is a much-needed resource in the struggle of millions of women to protect themselves from domestic violence and stalking.

Strong on Defense : Survival Rules to Protect You and Your Family from Crime

by Sanford Strong

Domestic Violence and Abuse : How to Stop It!

by Cheryl Anne Woodard, Ed Sherman (Editor), Charles Edward Sherman, Alana Bowman

This book gives step-by-step instructions on how to get a restraining order and work with police agencies to be sure the orders are enforced. Before even thinking about a restraining order, however, the woman must know about the predictable cycles of domestic violence and how to make plans to protect herself immediately and in the future.

[Sanctuary note: For information about the dangers associated with restraining or protective orders, please consult the various pages on this site or look at Linden Gross' book Understanding & Surviving America's Stalking Epidemic.]

Stopping a Stalker : A Cop's Guide to Making the System Work for You

by R. L. Snow (Editor)

From Booklist , May 1, 1998:

Sadly, this book could hardly be more timely, what with reports of stalking making news, especially when celebrities are involved, and all manner of anti-stalking laws popping up. Snow aims mainly to teach how to avoid and discourage stalkers, and case histories abound. Snow breaks down stalking into more specific kinds of threatening behavior, including "cause," "revenge," "serial," and "electronic" brands of stalking. He even covers the "unintentional and third-party victims of stalking." His writing is controlled, spare yet descriptive, and, most important for true-crime appeal, documented. In the case histories, for the most part, he gives dates, names, and specifies places. For the purpose of a grim guide to life or as background material on current crime trends, it would be hard to beat the facts, clear narratives, and sound advice that Snow provides.

Stalking : A Handbook for Victims

by Emily Spence-Diel

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Privacy for Sale : How Computerization Has Made Everyone's Private Life an Open Secret

by Jeffrey Rothfeder

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Safe, Smart & Self-Reliant : Personal Safety for Women & Children

by Gerri M. Dyer (Editor), Foundation for Crime Prevention Education

From Booklist , May 1, 1996

Common sense, consumer information, and scholarly research form the basis of this detailed handbook. Initial chapters cover potential dangers found in various areas of life-shopping and entertainment, the car and driving, public streets, the home, work, and traveling-and describe simple techniques for reducing their risks. Later chapters highlight the special vulnerabilities of children and adolescents, avoidance and survival of rape, and physical defense strategies. Each chapter concludes by summarizing key points and providing scenarios for discussion. Altogether, hundreds of strategies for resisting crime appear in the context of a carefully organized, empowering approach that acknowledges women's ability to be responsible for their and their children's well-being. –Kathryn Carpenter Copyright© 1996, American Library Association. All rights reserved

'Be Street Smart - Be Safe' Raising Safety Minded Children

by Nily Glaser

The publisher, GAN Publishing , November 22, 1997 writes:

The book "Be Street Smart - Be safe" Is available from Amazon. This is an INTERACTIVE, POSITIVE FUN BOOK which teaches children to BE AWARE of strangers, or strange behavior by others, without making them fearful. The premise of the book is that there is no need to worry or be afraid if you know what to do. The book stresses what is safe and poses the question "but what if?" It is written entirely in rhyme and introduces CAREFUL LEE the hound who advises the children. Since it "grows" with the children it is just as much fun, and just as useful to a kindergartener as it is to a 6th grader. Yet, even three years old children who are being read to, enjoy repeating CAREFUL LEE's refrains. Both parents and especially grandparents found "BE STREET SMART - BE SAFE" to be a giving gift. Working with the children through the book, gave the adults peace of mind and many thanked us for having published it. We also had requests for "Be Street Smart - Be Safe" from schools. Most have no purchasing budget for it, but wanted to know how they could GIVE a free book to each of their students. Their inquiries gave birth to Gan Publishing's ADOPT A CLASS, -, ADOPT A SCHOOL PROGRAM. The book and its author, a retired school principal, have been featured in the press, on radio and on T.V. nationwide.

On the Safe Side : Teach Your Child to Be Safe, Strong, and Street-Smart

by Paula Statman

A guide for parents shows how to protect children from molestation, abduction, and abuse without making them fearful by teaching them to use caution and good judgment, emphasizing self-esteem, and discussing issues in simple, matter-of-fact language. Includes sample scripts for difficult conversations written in positive, matter-of-fact language.

***HEALING***

Walking on Eggshells : Practical Counsel for Women in or Leaving a Violent Relationship

by Brian K. Ogawa

Describes the feelings experienced by many women who are in relationships where physical and psychological abuse are present. This book summarizes the nature of such relationships and presents specific ways a woman can respond to the violence realistically and responsibly. Through the personal accounts of women who have been in abusive relationships and the unique therapeutic approaches to suffering and recovery, these questions are given straightforward answers. This book provides practical and sensitive counsel on a serious and pervasive problem. It does so in a positive manner and with a firm belief that no woman should live in fear or be subjected to violent behavior.

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Every Eighteen Seconds : A Journey Through Domestic Violence

by Nancy Kilgore

Kilgore uses fifteen passionate letters to tell her son about the events that and circumstances that led her to leave his father, her abuser. The combination is powerful and revealing. This is what abuse looks and feels like.

Battered but Not Broken : Help for Abused Wives and Their Church Families

by Patricia Riddle Gaddis

This book offers step-by step intervention techniques and resources for assisting victims of domestic violence and challenges the church to take a stand against this crime, which is a leading cause of injury and death to women in the United States.

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Battered Wives

by Del Martin

Midwest Book Review writes:

Battered Wives is the first (and still the best) general introduction to the problem of abuse. Battered Wives includes excellent critical summaries of the legal and political status of battered wives and the extent to which their immediate predicament must be understood in broad political terms. Del Martin argues that the basis of the problem is not in husband/wife interaction or immediate triggering events, but in the institution of marriage, historical attitudes toward women, the economy, and inadequacies in legal and social service systems. Martin wants police and prosecutor functions constrained. She proposes specific legislation prohibiting wife abuse and suggest that judges protect the wife by closing the door to probation and de-emphasizing reconciliation. Other recommendations concern gun control, equal rights, and marriage contract legislation. Battered Wives is the seminal, benchmark title on the subject of domestic violence.

When Love Goes Wrong : What to Do When You Can't Do Anything Right

by Susan Schechter, Ann R. Jones

Full of moving first-person stories and drawing on the authors' 15 years of experience working with women in controlling and abusive relationships, When Love Goes Wrong provides guidance and practical options for the millions of women whose partners have crossed the line between love and control. "A much-needed, personal 'how-to' book for every woman with a controlling partner. It takes her step-by-step through the stages of awareness of what's going on, to finding support and protection, to reclaiming her life."--Del Martin, author of Battered Wives

Safe People : How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

by Henry, Dr Cloud, John Townsend (Contributor)

Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend offer solid guidance for making safe choices in relationships, from friendships to romance. They help identify the nurturing people we all need in our lives, as well as ones we need to learn to avoid. Safe People will help you to recognize 20 traits of relationally untrustworthy people. Discover what makes some people relationally safe, and how to avoid unhealthy entanglements. You'll learn about things within yourself that jeopardize your relational security. And you'll find out what to do and what not to do to develop a balanced, healthy approach to relationships.

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Ending the Violence : A Guidebook Based on the Experience of 1,000 Battered Wives

by Lee Harrington Bowker

Domestic Violence and Abuse : How to Stop It!

by Cheryl Anne Woodard, Ed Sherman (Editor), Charles Edward Sherman, Alana Bowman

Should You Leave

by Peter D. Kramer

In his phenomenal bestseller Listening to Prozac, Peter Kramer explored the makeup of the modern self. Now, in his superbly written new book, he focuses his intelligent, compassionate eye on the complexities of partnerships and why intimacy is so difficult for us. With the art of a novelist and the skill of a brilliant psychiatrist, Kramer addresses advice seekers struggling with such complex questions as: How do we choose our partners? How well do we know them? How do mood states affect our assessment of them and theirs of us? What does "working on a relationship" truly entail? When should we try to improve a relationship, and when should we leave? Equally at home with Shakespeare, Emerson, and Kierkegaard as it is with Freud and Jung, Should You Leave? is a literary tour de force from a uniquely insightful observer and a profoundly resonant and helpful approach to resolving dilemmas of the heart.

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New Beginnings : A Creative Writing Guide for Women Who Have Left Abusive Partnerships

by Sharon Doane

Doane, who directs a county-wide domestic violence prevention program in New York and leads weekly creative writing classes for abused women, has discovered that women are able to rebuild self-confidence and regain a positive sense of self through writing. This book provides a framework for dealing with the aftermath of an abusive relationship as well as concrete steps that help women to discover their own creativity and strength.

Getting Free : You Can End Abuse and Take Back Your Life

by Ginny Nicarthy

The most important self-help book of the movement to end domestic violence. It has helped change the lives of thousands of women. Over 135,000 copies in print.

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Making the Connections : Women, Work, and Abuse

by Patricia, A., Ph.D. Murphy

Challenging reading by one of America's most outspoken advocates that contains different plans of action to radically alter how survivors can be helped by both the healthcare and rehabilitation communities. Includes eleven first-person accounts of rape, incest, prostitution, and verbal and emotional as well as physical abuse as told in the actual words of survivors, along with alternatives for bringing survivors back into society and reestablishing their work identity. Coverage includes post-traumatic stress disorder, use of vocational experts: no-fault divorce, domestic torts, wrongful death, civil sexual assault cases, and suits involving incest, pornography, and prostitution, feminist vocational rehabilitation model and extensive appendices.

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A Career & Life Planning Guide for Women Survivors : Making the Connections Workbook

by Patricia A. Murphy

Abuse is so crippling that many who survive never function again as productive members of the work force, regardless of capacity. Coverage includes empowerment exercises to: overcome denial; deal with vulnerability, flashbacks, and dreams; describe the trauma experienced; list personal negative abusive experiences; direct a successful vocational future; work toward empowerment, TIPS that provide valuable suggestions and practical solutions, ample resources throughout the text to increase its power, and plenty of space to write responses to questions, situational issues, and problem-solving situations. This workbook is dedicated to addressing all of the issues survivors must face, up close. For use by professionals working with women survivors or by individuals themselves or with family members.

Working Together to End Domestic Violence

by Peter G. Jaffe (Editor), Nancy K. D. Lemon, Jack Sandler, David A. Wolfe

This is a clear, authoritative and practical reference for victims of domestic violence and for those who want to help them. Addresses the full range of types of family violence, including abuse of children, women, and the elderly within the family. It also considers the issue of family violence from a historical, psychological, legal, and service delivery perspective. This book contains concise summaries of extensive research findings and useful reports of intervention strategies. It is a resource and a catalyst for individuals, communities, and corporations to work together to end domestic violence.

Abused Men : The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence

by Philip W. Cook

When most people think of domestic violence, images of battered women or abused children come to mind. But there is another side to this issue that is not as familiar--abused men. This unique book is the first to comprehensively examine this important but neglected social issue. Already praised by a diverse spectrum of readers--from "Dear Abby's" Abigail Van Buren, to the nation's leading domestic violence researcher, to those in law enforcement and counseling--this work is sure to spark controversy and discussion. It offers gripping, emotional stories, self-help for victims, and provocative insight into public issues, and provides a basic reference source for professionals. Abused Men presents practical solutions for reducing domestic violence, whether its victims are male or female.

In Love and in Danger: A Teen's Guide to Breaking Free of Abusive Relationships

by Barrie Levy

Teenagers in abusive dating relationships often cannot find the words to ask adults for help and may feel too ashamed to talk to their peers. This new book gives teens the courage to bring a potentially harmful situation out into the open, end the cycle of abuse, and forge the way for healthy and loving relationships.

Defending Our Lives : Getting Away from Domestic Violence and Staying Safe

by Susan Murphy-Milano

This is one of the first books to offer practical, step-by-step advice to battered women on how to protect themselves from violent abuse in the home. Author Susan Murphy-Milano is the founder of Project: Protect and is one of the most visible and vocal advocates for victims of domestic violence.

Thousands of women are abused, battered, stalked, and killed by their husbands, boyfriends, lovers, and partners every year. While the O. J. Simpson trial raised domestic abuse to the forefront of public consciousness, no one has offered women concrete advice on how to protect themselves and get safely away from their abusers. In Defending Our Lives, Susan Murphy-Milano, the founder of Project:Protect, presents the first comprehensive guide to the options available to battered women as well as to the family and friends who want to help them. With detailed, practical information, Murphy-Milano guides women through the process of protecting themselves from domestic violence and stalking. She explains what domestic violence is, how to deal with the police and enlist their help, how to make the decision to leave, what steps to take during the actual move, how to secure one's home after leaving an abuser, how to navigate the legal system, how to ensure the safety of one's children, and how to defend against stalking. Family and friends can be crucial in this process, and throughout the book Murphy-Milano suggests numerous ways in which they can help. Defending Our Lives is a much-needed resource in the struggle of millions of women to protect themselves from domestic violence and stalking.

What to Do When Love Turns Violent : A Practical Resource for Women in Abusive Relationships

by Marian Betancourt

In this country, a woman is physically abused every nine seconds. One in four women is battered by a husband or boyfriend. One-third of all female homicide victims are killed by domestic partners. This critical reference is a source of hard facts to help women seek protection through law enforcement and the justice system, get assistance from the healthcare system, and find answers to their questions.

The first part spells out an action plan to get out of danger and find immediate help. The second part details how to stay safe and regain control over your life. For quick reference, What to Do When Love Turns Violent includes a state-by-state directory of domestic violence hot lines, and a listing of the national organizations devoted to helping victims of domestic violence. Consulting this sourcebook is the crucial first step to breaking the cycle of domestic violence. There is help out there, and What to Do When Love Turns Violent empowers you to find it and take back your life.

The Domestic Violence Sourcebook : Everything You Need to Know

by Dawn Bradley Berry, Dawn Bradley Berry

A reader from Boston, MA writes:

Educational, offers practical help and lists of resources. The Domestic Violence Sourcebook offers a comprehensive look at the issues surrounding domestic violence. Historical, psychological, social, familial, and legal issues are each covered in separate chapters. Prevention and treatment is addressed near the end of the book, as well as guidelines for people who are affected. An up-to-date (1998) list of resources concludes the book. This book was invaluable to me as both an educational and a resource tool for graduate research into domestic violence and substance abuse. The material is well-organized and presented in an easily accessible format. The content is useful whether you're a researcher or a general reader.

When Violence Begins at Home : A Comprehensive Guide to Understanding and Ending Domestic Abuse

by Karen Wilson

The author reflects on her 17 years on the front lines working against domestic violence after surviving an abusive relationship herself. Karen Wilson provides a comprehensive manual for counselors, legal professionals, and victims of abuse, addressing behavioral patterns, the role of alcohol and drugs, how to leave abusive relationships, legislation on domestic violence, and more.

With great understanding and empathy, this definitive guide fully addresses the needs of multiple audiences, including battered women from various backgrounds, teenaged victims of dating violence, educators, employers, community leaders, legal officials, and even the batterers themselves. Special chapters clarify the responsibilities and limitations of friends and family, shelter employees, health-care providers, law-enforcement officers, employers, counseling professionals, and clergy and help them to recognize when a woman's life is threatened and how to respond accordingly. Appendices provide safety plans that a woman can use to systematically approach surviving an attack and preparing for her escape. A comprehensive listing of local and national resources directs anyone invested in this issue to information and an extensive network of people who can help. "This book will be the bible of domestic violence advocates for years to come." -Del Martin, author of Battered Wives.

Breaking Free from Partner Abuse : Voices of Battered Women Caught in the Cycle of Domestic Violence

by Mary Marecek, Jami Moffett (Illustrator), Jeanne W. Lindsay (Designer), Jamie Moffett (Illustrator)

Dangerous Relationships : How to Stop Domestic Violence Before It Stops You

by Noelle C. Nelson, Marcia G. Lamm

The author, Noelle C. Nelson, Ph.D., E-mail: dr.noelle.c.Nelson@worldnet.att.net writes:

More than four million Americans fall victim to domestic violence each year. Even the famous, including Tina Turner, Greg Louganis and Brett Buttler, are not immune. Millions of words have been written addressing the violence already taking place in homes across the country, but very little attention has been given to how to prevent domestic violence from happening in the first play. That's why I wrote Dangerous Relationships: How to Stop Domestic Violence Before It Stops You.

Domestic violence does not occur in a void. There are common characteristics that run through most domestic violence relationships. Readers can use this information to stay clear of relationships that exhibit the signs that may be preludes to violence. Dangerous Relationships is written from the perspective of the battered individual. It uses four distinct relationships to show how the aggressive partners behave in certain characteristically predictable ways, which almost always leads to violence. The predictability of an abuser's behavior is what makes domestic violence, to a large degree, preventable. These relationships appear, at first, quite different from each other: Mary and John (heterosexual lovers), Bob and Karen (husband and wife), Peter and Tony (homosexual lovers), and Teri and Ann (platonic roommates). As these real-life scenarios develop in the book, readers will realize that these relationships have much in common--all have the same underlying dynamics that foster domestic violence--whirlwind beginnings, possessiveness, a Dr. Jekyll/Mr.Hyde personality, victim blaming, verbal abuse, insensitivity, and finally, violence.

I write both from personal and professional experience. I have been a victim of domestic abuse, and as a psychologist and trial consultant, I have worked with hundreds of individuals caught in the pain of domestic violence. It doesn't have to be this way! Dangerous Relationships will help you see the way through the pain to a healthy love--the kind that doesn't include visits to the emergency room.

Before It's Too Late : Helping Women in Controlling or Abusive Relationships

by Susan E Pickering, Robert J. Ackerman

No Visible Wounds : Identifying Nonphysical Abuse of Women by Their Men

by Mary Susan, Phd Miller

DOES YOUR PARTNER . . .

have sudden outbursts of anger or rage?
become jealous without reason?
prevent you from seeing friends and family?
deny you access to family assets such as bank accounts, credit cards, or the car?
control all finances and force you to account for what you spend?
insult you or call you derogatory names?
humiliate you in front of your children?
turn minor incidents into major arguments?

If you or someone you know can answer "yes" to the questions above, chances are you are suffering from nonphysical battering--controlling, tyrannical behavior that is just as damaging to a woman's self-esteem as a broken bone or a black eye. An experienced counselor who works with abused women, Mary Susan Miller breaks the silence that surrounds this devastating form of domestic violence. She identifies the many types of nonphysical abuse--verbal, emotional, psychological, social, and economic--and explores why this outrageous treatment of women continues unabated in our society.

Dr. Miller also shares the stories of many survivors who have escaped their abusive relationships. Their experiences--with law enforcement, the legal system, and the community itself--can help prepare any woman for the decision of whether to stay or leave the relationship. And if she decides to go, Dr. Miller offers sound guidelines on how to protect herself and her children, since a woman's decision to leave is usually the time she is in the most danger from her abuser. Finally, Dr. Miller inspires hope: You can break free of the nightmare of nonphysical battering and heal, once again engaging in a life of integrity, dignity, and peace.

Domestic violence against women is not limited to physical assaults. In No Visible Wounds, veteran counselor Mary Susan Miller breaks the silence that surrounds this devastating form of abuse, identifies the many types of nonphysical battering, and explores why this outrageous treatment of women continues unabated in our society.

Adult Children of Abusive Parents : A Healing Program for Those Who Have Been Physically, Sexually, or Emotionally Abused

by Steven Farmer

A history of a childhood abuse is not a life sentence. Here is hope, healing, and a chance to recover the self lost in childhood. Drawing on his extensive work with Adult Children, and on his own experience as a survivor of emotional neglect, therapist Steven Farmer demonstrates that through exercises and journal work, his program can help lead you through grieving your lost childhood, to become your own parent, and integrate the healing aspects of spiritual, physical, and emotional recovery into your adult life.

This book examines the lack of boundaries, chaos, denial and rigid role-playing that exist in dysfunctional families--and then reveals the ways to overcome them. "An important contribution to the Adult Child literature."--Charles Whitfield, M.D., author of Healing the Child Within.

Toxic Parents : Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life

by Susan, Dr. Forward, Susan Foward, Craig Buck (Contributor)

When you were a child...

Did your parents tell you were bad or worthless?
Did your parents use physical pain to discipline you?
Did you have to take care of your parents because of their problems?
Were you frightened of your parents?
Did your parents do anything to you that had to be kept secret?
Now that you are an adult...
Do your parents still treat you as if you were a child?
Do you have intense emotional or physical reactions after spending time with your parents?
Do your parents control you with threats or guilt?
Do they manipulate you with money?
Do you feel that no matter what you do, it's never good enough for your parents?

In this remarkable self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward drawn on case histories and the real-life voices of adult children of toxic parents to help you free yourself from the frustrating patterns of your relationship with your parents -- and discover an exciting new world of self-confidence, inner strength, and emotional independence.

Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse

by Gregory L. Jantz

Whether you or a loved one has been abused by words, actions, or even indifference, this book will help you understand the effects of the abuse, give you insight into the problems of the abuser, and show you how to overcome the past.

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The Obsidian Mirror : An Adult Healing from Incest

by Louise M. Wisechild

Personal Growth Editor's Recommended Book:

Louise Wisechild was one of the first writers to graphically depict her incest story and frame it as a journey of healing. Despite her frightening memories, you'll feel safe in the strength of Wisechild's narrative. Wisechild is as steady as they come, yet she's still sensitive and fully alive despite all that could have left her numbed and crippled. Statistics suggest that one-third of all women experienced some form of sexual abuse as children. As a model for collective healing and storytelling, The Obsidian Mirror remains one of the best literary companions available.

The Mother I Carry : A Memoir of Healing from Emotional Abuse

by Louise M. Wisechild

A reader writes:

This book is a must-read!!!! Louise Wisechild is a perfect name for this author. She has been through so much, and yet manages to live her everyday life with aplomb. This book was hard for me to read because it hits so close to home. It helped me see options I have as far as dealing with my family and also ways I can self-manage the pain I was feeling. Her first book, The Obsidian Mirror, focused more on her therapy and her childhood physical abuse. This second book focuses on the emotional abuse heaped upon her by a mother who refused to acknowledge what was happening. I consider this book a must-read for anyone who has issues with their family members who did not actively participate in the abuse.

The Emotionally Abused Woman : Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself

by Beverly Engel

With the insight and sensible, compassionate guidance which have distinguished her previous books, A Right to Innocence and Divorcing a Parent, Engel addresses one of the biggest segments of the recovery audience--and one of its most pressing issues: the emotional abuse of women by those they work with, live with, and love.

A reader writes:

Read this for your own self-esteem. Engel gives a concise description of what emotional abuse is, and the types of abusers and victims. She helps to uncover the patterns and reasons for abuse, ways to recover from it. Like many women in emotionally abusive relationships, it was very difficult for me to even see it occurring. Her book is a constant reminder of how to stop the cycle, both for me and for my children.

A Woman Like You : The Face of Domestic Violence (New Leaf Series)

by Vera Anderson (Photographer)

Vera Anderson's unique volume of photo-essays shows the faces of brave women (and children) who have escaped situations of domestic abuse and prints each woman's story--in her own words--beside her portrait. Anderson sums up each entry with one sentence describing the woman's life after her escape--from happy to harrowing endings. "Their mother is serving a sentence of life in prison without the possibility of parole for the death of their father," concludes one of the testimonials.

Women of all ages, races, and backgrounds look directly into the camera, answering the common question: What sort of a woman would stay in an abusive relationship? "You. Me. Our daughters. Our mothers. Our grandmothers. The faces of these women, survivors all, are poignant reminders that the questions we ask are so often the wrong ones." In the introduction to A Woman Like You, Anderson writes, "Friends would say to me, 'I never knew. You don't look like a battered woman.' I agreed. But then, what did a battered woman look like? The truth is, battered women are all around us. We just don't recognize them, because they look like us."

Impossible to read without empathy and rage, this work's power is its simple and bold presentation. A Woman Like You puts faces to a heinous social problem, but it also gives hope that freedom exists, however paradoxical.

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It Could Happen to Anyone : Why Battered Women Stay

by Ola W. Barnett, Alyce D. Laviolette

Captive Hearts, Captive Minds : Freedom and Recovery from Cults and Other Abusive Relationships

by Madeleine Landau Tobias, Janja Lalich

A reader in Australia writes:

A must-read for former cult members. I wish I had found this book immediately after leaving the cult I was involved in. This book offers invaluable assitance to those who have been involved with a destructive cult, whether it be relgious, political or psycho-theraputic. The text gives former members indications of what to expect in recovery as well as practical assitance to cope with their recovery. The text also gives a breakdown of how and why cults operate as they do; how and why people get recruitted into cults; and how and why people leave cults. This book is truly a gift from the authors' heart, experiences and study. Thanks to them.

The Stress Owners Manual : Meaning, Balance & Health in Your Life

by Edmond W. Boenisch, C. Michelle Haney, Ed Boenisch

Drs. Boenisch and Haney offer practical strategies for taking charge of your life by learning to control your thinking. You can strengthen your beliefs and attitudes to prepare for what life will bring by:

Thinking "real" by monitoring your thoughts to avoid self-limiting "hook" words like "never," "should," "must," "can't," "always," and "ought."
Maintaining a sense of humor and strong social ties.
Seeing possibilities.
Being assertive, honoring your own rights while respecting others'.

The book includes revealing questionnaires or "maps" to help pinpoint specific stressors and effective techniques for lifelong stress management.

***CHILDREN & TEENS***

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Conspiracy of Silence : The Trauma of Incest

by Sandra Butler

The first book to appear on what was, until then, unspeakable and unspoken. It has become the classic reference and guide to the complex issues of child sexual assault.

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To Tell the Truth

by Renee Peterson (Illustrator), Brian K. Ogawa

A full-color illustrated book for children eight years and older to help guide them through the criminal justice system. To Tell the Truth is written to help children tell the truth in court about something scary or bad that happened. To Tell the Truth is an informative introduction to police, prosecution and court proceedings, and is applicable in all states. It mentions Children's Advocacy Centers as places where people assist child victims and witnesses, and expands nomenclature as appropriate in different jurisdictions.

Cool Cats, Calm Kids : Relaxation and Stress Management for Young People

by Mary L. Williams, Dianne O'Quinn Burke (Illustrator)

Combining kids' love of animals with sensible tips for handling minor upsets, Williams' book Cool Cats, Calm Kids : Relaxation and Stress Management for Young People draws on cats' "nine lives" for nine secrets to stress management that are easy, informative, and fun. Among the Cat Secrets revealed are:

Secret #1: TAKE CATNAPS ("This saves energy for what's really important!")
Secret #3: HISS...PUFF UP... ("Stand up for yourself, and work out a fair solution.")
Secret #9: HANG IN THERE ("Persistence pays off.")

With charming illustrations by Dianne O'Quinn Burke and a section on stress-busting strategies for parents, teachers, and counselors, Cool Cats, Calm Kids teaches simple stress-reduction exercises in an inviting format.

Treating Abused Adolescents

by Eliana Gil

John Briere, Ph.D., Associate Professor of Psychiatry and Psychology, University of Southern California School of Medicine writes:

Because abuse-focused therapists tend to specialize in either children or adults, adolescent abuse survivors are often neglected by clinicians. Fortunately for all concerned, Eliana Gil has written a wonderful and insightful book on treating this specific population. As usual, her writing sparkles with humanity, intelligence, and technical prowess. And, as usual, I went straight to the famous Eliana-and-the-client dialogues: no one demonstrates the nuts and bolts of (very good) therapy like Dr. Gil

The Journal of Feminist Family Therapy writes:

There's nothing more reassuring in this day of multiple theories and grandiose therapeutic claims than to read the work of an experienced, balanced practitioner who thoroughly knows what she's doing. This was my response in the first pages of Eliana Gil's book, Treating Abused Adolescents. I sat back and settled in with a sense of immediate confidence that I was being taught material I very much needed to learn. In addition to her understanding of the issues of adolescents and the impact of trauma on them, I appreciated Gil's clarity about her therapeutic stance in outlining her personal ideas about treatment. She lets us know what, in her own experience, determines her approach, and she summarizes theories that she finds particularly useful in working with this population. Beyond her extensive knowledge of the topic, what is most useful about this book is that Gil provides a hands-on guide to doing treatment. This book is highly useful, not only in treating adolescent trauma victims, but in working with adolescents in general. This book is important reading for all of us who work with families affected by trauma and abuse and, to my mind, is a major contribution to the literature on children and trauma.

What Parents Need to Know About Dating Violence : Learning the Facts and Helping Your Teen

by Barrie Levy, Patricia Griggans, Patricia Giggans

Offering information, advice, and real-life stories from parents and teens, a guide to dealing with dating violence discusses how to teach teens to protect themselves and build healthy relationships, describes resources available, and addresses special situations. The author of Dating Violence teams up with the executive director of the Los Angeles Commission on Assaults Against Women to offer parents and others who work with and care about teens supportive guidance about the difficult problem of teen relationships and violence.

In Love and in Danger: A Teen's Guide to Breaking Free of Abusive Relationships

by Barrie Levy

Trauma in the Lives of Children : Crisis and Stress Management Techniques for Teachers, Counselors, and Student Service Professionals

by Kendall Johnson

"Parents and teachers are frequently bewildered when faced with a traumatized child or group of distressed children. The information contained in this book will help adults so they do not have to stand idle while children suffer." - Jeffrey Mitchell, Ph.D., Assistant Professor of Emergency Health Services, University of Maryland

"Dr. Johnson, master teacher and therapist, is to be congratulated on an important contribution to the mental health literature. Trauma in the Lives of Children deserves to be read by every professional who cares for children in our troubled world." - Spencer Eth, M.D., Chief of Psychiatry, V.A. Medical Center, Los Angeles

Children may be traumatized in many ways: by parental separation, violence, or abuse in the home; seeing a shooting at school or on the news; the death of a loved one. If not properly handled, trauma can affect a child's development, damaging health, socialization, school performance, family interactions, and self-esteem. This book explains how children react to specific types of trauma and shows what schools, therapists, and families can do to help traumatized children regain a sense of security and hope.

This second edition includes up-to-date information about false memory syndrome, the advances in the understanding of memory function, and the DSM's new definition for post-traumatic stress. It also offers step-by-step instructions to recognizing and addressing a traumatized child. A special chapter on trauma prevention helps families prepare for crises, to keep the effects of trauma to a minimum.

Making the Peace : A 15-Session Violence Prevention Curriculum for Young People (Making the Peace)

by Paul Kivel, Allan Creighton, Oakland Men's Project

"Violence is usually dealt with as a question of managing offenders and protecting everyone else from their acts. It is refreshing and wonderful to come upon a curriculum that tackles the root causes of violence while at the same time trying to help violent people come to terms with their actions." - Herbert Kohl, in Rethinking Schools Escalating violence affects almost every school and youth facility today. The resulting fear and insecurity undermines education-and the physical harm is devastating. In the Making the Peace program, teens and adults meet together to jointly turn peer pressure into peer alliance, and replace competition and fighting with cooperation and respect.

This school-based curriculum is for teachers, administrators, and parents who want to see young people stop the violence, develop self-esteem, and regain a sense of community. Drawing from years of violence prevention and community work, the authors outline a 15-session program, flexible enough to use during consecutive days or throughout a semester, that will help young people:

Explore the roots of violence in society, the community, and their lives.
Develop practical techniques for stopping violence.
Take concrete steps to build respectful and violence-free relationships.

Classroom discussions and assignments explore such crucial issues as dating violence, male-male fights, male-female fights, class imbalance, interracial tension, suicide, guns, and sexual harassment. The handouts and homework exercises throughout the book are ready-to-use and designed for easy reproduction.

Days of Respect : Organizing a Schoolwide Violence Prevention Program (Making the Peace)

by Ralph Cantor (Editor), Paul Kivel (Editor), Allan Creighton (Editor)

Created by a veteran teacher working with staff of the Oakland Men's Project, Days of Respect is a multiday, schoolwide program that brings young people, parents, teachers, and the community together, working to solve social problems and encourage respect for differences. It cultivates a community and school commitment to nonviolent behavior and promotes integrity, support for others, and student leadership.

Drawing on successful presentations in several schools, this manual gives step-by-step instructions for setting up a Days of Respect program. Reproducible handouts facilitate all the phases: presenting the idea to parents and administrators, conducting planning meetings, staging the event, and establishing ongoing campaigns to reduce violence and promote respect. Includes checklists, training exercises, and final evaluations.

Helping Teens Stop Violence : A Practical Guide for Educators, Counselors, and Parents

by Allan Creighton, Paul Kivel (Contributor)

Based on programs developed by Battered Women's Alternatives and the Oakland Men's Project, this book offers a proactive, multicultural approach for getting at the roots of violent behavior. The activities and workshops described in the book explore how violence manifests in families and dating; how issues of race, gender, and age are involved; and how teens can work to stop the violence in their lives. It includes curricula for classrooms and support groups, and strategies to support peer counselors and help abused teens.

Allan Creighton and Paul Kivel are cofounders of Oakland Men's Project and conduct workshops for adult and teenage males around the country. They also coauthored Young Men's Work and Making the Peace. All royalties from sales go to the nonprofit Oakland Men's Project and Battered Women's Alternatives.

Children Exposed to Marital Violence : Theory, Research, and Applied Issues (Apa Science Volumes)

by George W. Holden (Editor), Robert Geffner (Editor), Ernest N. Jouriles

Despite a considerable amount of research into wife battering and child maltreatment, researchers only recently have begun systematically to study the children who are exposed to violence between domestic partners. These children--often called the "silent" or "invisible" victims of domestic violence--are the focus of this volume. Children Exposed to Marital Violence: Theory, Research, and Applied Issues examines the research on this topic and analyzes the complex interactions that determine children's outcomes. Among the questions it addresses are the following: Why are some children greatly affected by this type of violence, whereas others seem to function quite well under the circumstances? What features of the hostile environment are the children reacting to, and what characteristics of the children and their parents mediate or exacerbate behavior problems? Why is there such variability in children's outcomes, and what can be done to help them?

Children Exposed to Marital Violence: Theory, Research, and Applied Issues brings together leading researchers in the field in a discussion of a serious social issue that affects millions of children in the United States today. This volume will be of interest to those who study family violence or deal with the consequences of such violence; developmental, clinical, and educational psychologists; social workers; sociologists; and policy makers.

Breaking the Silence : Art Therapy With Children from Violent Homes

by Cathy A. Malchiodi

Booknews, Inc. writes:

Malchiodi, director of the Art Therapy Program at the U. of Utah, demonstrates the power of art therapy as a tool for intervening with children from violent homes. The emphasis is on the short-term setting where time is at a premium and circumstances are unpredictable. Illustrated with 95 drawings by abused children. Annotation copyright Book News, Inc. Portland, Or.

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Safe, Smart & Self-Reliant : Personal Safety for Women & Children

by Gerri M. Dyer (Editor), Foundation for Crime Prevention Education

From Booklist , May 1, 1996

'Be Street Smart - Be Safe' Raising Safety Minded Children

by Nily Glaser

The publisher, GAN Publishing , November 22, 1997 writes:

On the Safe Side : Teach Your Child to Be Safe, Strong, and Street-Smart

by Paula Statman

Adult Children of Abusive Parents : A Healing Program for Those Who Have Been Physically, Sexually, or Emotionally Abused

by Steven Farmer

Toxic Parents : Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life

by Susan, Dr. Forward, Susan Foward, Craig Buck (Contributor)

When you were a child...

Did your parents tell you were bad or worthless?
Did your parents use physical pain to discipline you?
Did you have to take care of your parents because of their problems?
Were you frightened of your parents?
Did your parents do anything to you that had to be kept secret?
Now that you are an adult...
Do your parents still treat you as if you were a child?
Do you have intense emotional or physical reactions after spending time with your parents?
Do your parents control you with threats or guilt?
Do they manipulate you with money?
Do you feel that no matter what you do, it's never good enough for your parents?

Trauma in the Lives of Children : Crisis and Stress Management Techniques for Teachers, Counselors, and Student Service Professionals

by Kendall Johnson

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Teaching Young Children in Violent Times : Building a Peaceable Classroom

by Diane Levin

Helps teachers and group leaders working with pre-K to 3rd-graders to create an environment in which young children can learn alternatives to the violent behaviors modeled in our society, the media, and home. It offers practical guildelines and activities for meeting young children's needs for safety, providing opportunities and skills to resolve conflicts creatively and respectfully.

Living with My Family: A Child's Workbook About Violence in the Home

by Wendy Deaton

The author writes:

This workbook, along with My Own Thoughts and No More Hurt is part of an eight workbook series designed for professionals working with elementary school age children in a counseling setting. Living With My Family and No More Hurt are the original volumes and appear without illustration. Illustrated volumes include a boys version and a girls version of My Own Thoughts, dealing with nonspecific dysfunction such as anxiety, depression, school adjustment, psychosomatic complaints and self-esteem; A Separation in My Family, for children dealing with separation or divorce; Drinking and Drugs in My Family for children in substance abusing families; On Stopping the Hurt for children who have been physically or sexually abused, and Someone I Love Died for children dealing with grief and loss. These workbooks are unique in that they have been designed with the developmental process of therapy as the foundation for the unfolding sequence of tasks. Each workbook contains a page by page therapist's guide describing the purpose, value and meaning of the tasks, as well as suggestions for expanding upon the specific topic outlined by each task. New therapists, therapists who are unaccustomed to working with young children, and therapists seeking growth-oriented tools will particularly benefit from utilizing the workbooks. An additional benefit is that the workbook provides a vehicle for charting a child's progress and for demonstrating to apprehensive parents that the therapist has a goal and a plan for their child. To my delight as the originator, the Growth and Recovery Workbook Series has been repeatedly selected by Behavioral Science Book Club for promotion to the therapeutic community. In my own work as a therapist, I have found the workbooks provide an excellent vehicle for gentle confrontation relative to sensitive issues and an invaluable tool for keeping young clients focused on the therapeutic work. Comments and recommendations may be e-mailed to Wendy Deaton, JMAYTOE@AOL.com

No More Hurt: A Child's Workbook about Recovering from Abuse

by Wendy Deaton

The author writes:

This workbook, along with My Own Thoughts and Living With My Family is part of an eight workbook series designed for professionals working with elementary school age children in a counseling setting. Living With My Family and No More Hurt are the original volumes and appear without illustration. Illustrated volumes include a boys version and a girls version of My Own Thoughts, dealing with nonspecific dysfunction such as anxiety, depression, school adjustment, psychosomatic complaints and self-esteem; A Separation in My Family, for children dealing with separation or divorce; Drinking and Drugs in My Family for children in substance abusing families; On Stopping The Hurt for children who have been physically or sexually abused, and Someone I Love Died for children dealing with grief and loss. These workbooks are unique in that they have been designed with the developmental process of therapy as the foundation for the unfolding sequence of tasks. Each workbook contains a page by page therapist's guide describing the purpose, value and meaning of the tasks, as well as suggestions for expanding upon the specific topic outlined by each task. New therapists, therapists who are unaccustomed to working with young children, and therapists seeking growth-oriented tools will particularly benefit from utilizing the workbooks. An additional benefit is that the workbook provides a vehicle for charting a child's progress and for demonstrating to apprehensive parents that the therapist has a goal and a plan for their child. To my delight as the originator, the Growth and Recovery Workbook Series has been repeatedly selected by Behavioral Science Book Club for promotion to the therapeutic community. In my own work as a therapist, I have found the workbooks provide an excellent vehicle for gentle confrontation relative to sensitive issues and an invaluable tool for keeping young clients focused on the therapeutic work. Comments and recommendations may be e-mailed to Wendy Deaton, JMAYTOE@AOL.com

My Own Thoughts and Feelings (for Girls): A Young Girl's Workbook About Exploring Problems

by Wendy Deaton

The author writes:

This workbook, along with Living With My Family and No More Hurt is part of an eight workbook series designed for professionals working with elementary school age children in a counseling setting. Living With My Family and No More Hurt are the original volumes and appear without illustration. Illustrated volumes include a boys version and a girls version of My Own Thoughts, dealing with nonspecific dysfunction such as anxiety, depression, school adjustment, psychosomatic complaints and self-esteem; A Separation in My Family, for children dealing with separation or divorce; Drinking and Drugs in My Family for children in substance abusing families; On Stopping The Hurt for children who have been physically or sexually abused, and Someone I Love Died for children dealing with grief and loss. These workbooks are unique in that they have been designed with the developmental process of therapy as the foundation for the unfolding sequence of tasks. Each workbook contains a page by page therapist's guide describing the purpose, value and meaning of the tasks, as well as suggestions for expanding upon the specific topic outlined by each task. New therapists, therapists who are unaccustomed to working with young children, and therapists seeking growth-oriented tools will particularly benefit from utilizing the workbooks. An additional benefit is that the workbook provides a vehicle for charting a child's progress and for demonstrating to apprehensive parents that the therapist has a goal and a plan for their child. To my delight as the originator, the Growth and Recovery Workbook Series has been repeatedly selected by Behavioral Science Book Club for promotion to the therapeutic community. In my own work as a therapist, I have found the workbooks provide an excellent vehicle for gentle confrontation relative to sensitive issues and an invaluable tool for keeping young clients focused on the therapeutic work. Comments and recommendations may be e-mailed to Wendy Deaton, JMAYTOE@AOL.com

What Jamie Saw

by Carolyn Coman

Booklist writes:

Grades 5 thru 8. From its opening sentence, Coman's latest grabs your attention: "When Jamie saw him throw the baby, saw Van throw the little baby, saw Van throw his little sister Nin, when Jamie saw Van throw his baby sister Nin, then they moved." Coman captures in lyrical prose the rush of feelings third-grader Jamie experiences when his mother, having successfully caught the baby, packs them in the car and flees to a friend's trailer. Jamie likes the small space, where, "if someone went flying," they wouldn't go far, and there are no sharp edges, but when he and his mother venture out to a school carnival and think they spot Van, their fear overwhelms them. Fortunately, Jamie's teacher spies them crouching, and when Jamie misses more than a week of school, Mrs. Desrocher lends them the support they need to reenter the normal world. Coman depicts with visceral clarity the reactions of both Jamie and his mother, capturing their jitteriness and the love that carries them through the moments when they take their fear out on each other. Coman admirably overcomes the technical difficulties she has set for herself in beginning her novel with such an intense scene, and her conclusion, with Van deflated by the unified front Jamie and his mother present, satisfies and feels truthful. Jamie, with his acute observations and ability to completely immerse himself in the moment, is a memorable character children will recognize as being just like them. Susan Dove Lempke Copyright© 1995, American Library Association. All rights reserved.

***VIOLENCE PREVENTION & TREATMENT***

Learning to live Without Violence

by Daniel Jay, Ph.D. Sonkin, Michael, Md. Durphy

1997 best-selling manual providing techniques and suggestions to help treat batterers, including exercises to enhance the curriculum for longer-term counseling and education programs.

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Apprender a Vivir Sin Violenia: Manual Para Hombers

by Daniel Jay, Ph.D. Sonkin, Michael, Md. Durphy

Translated by Dr. Jorge Corsi, a clinical psychologist and professor at the University of Buenos Aires. He is president of the Argentina Association for the Prevention of Family Violence, and a coordinator of male batterers' groups.

Raising Daughters of Strength; Helping Your Child Avoid Abusive Relationships
by Patricia Riddle Gaddis

Helping Teens Stop Violence : A Practical Guide for Educators, Counselors, and Parents

by Allan Creighton, Paul Kivel (Contributor)

Making the Peace : A 15-Session Violence Prevention Curriculum for Young People (Making the Peace)

by Paul Kivel, Allan Creighton, Oakland Men's Project

"Violence is usually dealt with as a question of managing offenders and protecting everyone else from their acts. It is refreshing and wonderful to come upon a curriculum that tackles the root causes of violence while at the same time trying to help violent people come to terms with their actions." - Herbert Kohl, in Rethinking Schools. Escalating violence affects almost every school and youth facility today. The resulting fear and insecurity undermines education-and the physical harm is devastating. In the Making the Peace program, teens and adults meet together to jointly turn peer pressure into peer alliance, and replace competition and fighting with cooperation and respect.

Explore the roots of violence in society, the community, and their lives.
Develop practical techniques for stopping violence.
Take concrete steps to build respectful and violence-free relationships.

Days of Respect : Organizing a Schoolwide Violence Prevention Program (Making the Peace)

by Ralph Cantor (Editor), Paul Kivel (Editor), Allan Creighton (Editor)

Drawing on successful presentations in several schools, this manual gives step-by-step instructions for setting up a Days of Respect program. Reproducible handouts facilitate all the phases: presenting the idea to parents and administrators, conducting planning meetings, staging the event, and establishing ongoing campaigns to reduce violence and promote respect. Includes checklists, training exercises, and final evaluations.

Alternatives to Violence : Empowering Youth to Develop Healthy Relationships

by David A. Wolfe, Christine Wekerle, Katreena Scott

Violent No More : Helping Men End Domestic Abuse

by Michael Paymar

"I asked men in the domestic violence program groups that I lead to use the book and give some feedback. The consensus was positive, in that the men believed that the book was supportive of them while encouraging change . . . . As one man said, the book gave him a map but the journey is still his to undertake." - Anne L.

Ganley, Ph.D., from Violence Update

Domestic violence operates at every level of society, crossing boundaries of race, color, and class. Each year over 4 million women in the U.S. are beaten by male partners, many of whom also hit their children. The abuse destroys the relationship and can destroy lives. Based on the model abuse intervention program in Duluth, Minnesota, Violent No More offers a self-help option to men and a blueprint for organizations that work with them. It addresses abusive men directly, taking them step-by-step from recognizing their abusive behaviors, through facing their own rage, fear, and insecurity, to learning how to express anger without violence. Michael Paymar is training coordinator for the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project in Duluth. For over 14 years he has helped men who beat their partners learn to live without violence. He conducts seminars and training sessions throughout the world.

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Education Groups for Men Who Batter : The Duluth Model

by Ellen Pence, Michael Paymar, Tineke Ritmeester, Melanie Shepard

***PROFESSIONAL RESOURCES & DISCUSSION***

FREE! From the Federal Government

New Directions from the Field: Victims' Rights and Services for the 21st Century. Published by the U.S. Department of Justice, Office for Victims of Crime, New Directions is a comprehensive report on victims' rights and services that chronicles the extraordinary accomplishments of the victims field, and outlines what we as a society should strive to achieve for crime victims in the 21st century. The document contains approximately 250 recommendations targeted to nearly every profession that comes in contact with crime victims. It also contains scores of promising practices that are transforming victim services in America today. This document is the first comprehensive plan regarding how the nation should respond to crime victims since the 1982 Final Report of the President's Task Force on Victims of Crime. It can be downloaded in individual chapters, or as a document as a whole, or can be ordered through the mail for the cost of shipping ($6.50).

To download this free publication, go to: http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/ovc/new/directions/

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The Counselor's Guide to Learning to Live Without Violence

by Daniel Jay Sonkin

"Presents the theoretical foundations...the current controversies, the political context that we in the family violence field face, and the various techniques that can be applied to treatment...includes two topics often omitted in other books: stalking and multicultural issues."

-- Robert Geffner, Ph.D., ABPN, President, Family Violence & Sexual Assault Institute

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Family Violence and Religion : An Interfaith Resource Guide

by David Charlsen (editor)

Designed to assist clergy and church workers -- often the first place a person turns for help in ending an abusive relationship -- to counsel abused women, their children, and abusive men. Special emphasis is placed on diverse theology and cultures, including Christian, Jewish, African-American, Latina, Asian, the elderly, rural women, and children.

Battered but Not Broken : Help for Abused Wives and Their Church Families

by Patricia Riddle Gaddis

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Broken by You

by Morton Paterson

Takes a painful and personal look at the male mind-set that fosters woman abuse, and the unforgivable silence of the church on the subject. For Paterson, stopping the cycle at home is only the first step in helping dangerous men, wounded women, and damaged children who inhabit one in our homes today. He offers practical suggestions for women's healing, men's healing, and for church and congregational development to foster the long mending process.

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The Sourcebook for Working With Battered Women : A Comprehensive Manual Specifically Designed for Counselors, Ministers, Social Workers, Educators, and Support Group Handlers

by Nancy Kilgore

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Physician's Guide to Domestic Violence : How to Ask the Right Questions and Recognize Abuse

by Ellen Taliaferro(Contributor), Patricia R. Salber

This is the "how to" manual that every busy practitioner and care giver should have.

What Parents Need to Know About Dating Violence : Learning the Facts and Helping Your Teen

by Barrie Levy, Patricia Griggans, Patricia Giggans

Offering information, advice, and real-life stories from parents and teens, this guide to dealing with dating violence discusses how to teach teens to protect themselves and build healthy relationships, describes resources available, and addresses special situations. The author of Dating Violence teams up with the executive director of the Los Angeles Commission on Assaults Against Women to offer parents and others who work with and care about teens supportive guidance about the difficult problem of teen relationships and violence.

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Making the Connections : Women, Work, and Abuse

by Patricia A. Murphy, Ph.D.

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A Career & Life Planning Guide for Women Survivors : Making the Connections Workbook

by Patricia A. Murphy

Working Together to End Domestic Violence

by Peter G. Jaffe (Editor), Nancy K. D. Lemon, Jack Sandler, David A. Wolfe

Helping Teens Stop Violence : A Practical Guide for Educators, Counselors, and Parents

by Allan Creighton, Paul Kivel (Contributor)

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Utilizing Community Resources : An Overview of Human Services

by William Crimando (Editor), Ted F. Riggar (Contributor)

Since the human service professional is responsible for the client's interaction with the community and society at large, it is essential that he or she understand what all other assisting agencies can offer each client. This book identifies professionals in all allied human service fields and offers critical information needed to properly assist and guide clients. This book provides typical referral questions, details on purpose, structure of services offered, legislative history, and utilization criteria, eligibility requirements, benefits provided, funding, model components,and social services.

Frances P. Casey, Ed.D., C.R.C., Springfield College writes:

The material contained in this text is so very relevant to the practice of case management in rehabilitation, especially in these troubled economic times when case managers must rely heavily on community-based resources to serve their clients effectively.

Midwest Book Review writes:

Encyclopedic in its coverage, Utilizing Community Resources: An Overview of Human Services provides a special and very unique presentation for professionals in all fields of human services with all of the information needed to assist and guide clients. With contributions from some 40 authors, this is a reference to be used again and again. Here the reader will find assistance in making the most of the overlapping systems of the most prominent and beneficial human service agencies. In addition, there is information on how to enlist the expertise of professionals in other specialty areas. Chapters cover health and diagnostic services, social services, rehabilitation services, vocational and employment services, legal services and advocacy, education, and human services. The text is perfect for professionals at all experience levels, students in training, and any interested nonspecialist general reader.

Treating Abused Adolescents

by Eliana Gil

John Briere, Ph.D., Associate Professor of Psychiatry and Psychology, University of Southern California School of Medicine writes:

The Journal of Feminist Family Therapy writes:

There's nothing more reassuring in this day of multiple theories and grandiose therapeutic claims than to read the work of an experienced, balanced practitioner who thoroughly knows what she's doing. This was my response in the first pages of Eliana Gil's book, Treating Abused Adolescents. I sat back and settled in with a sense of immediate confidence that I was being taught material I very much needed to learn. In addition to her understanding of the issues of adolescents and the impact of trauma on them, I appreciated Gil's clarity about her therapeutic stance in outlining her personal ideas about treatment. She lets us know what, in her own experience, determines her approach, and she summarizes theories that she finds particularly useful in working with this population. Beyond her extensive knowledge of the topic, what is most useful about this book is that Gil provides a hands-on guide to doing treatment. This book is highly useful, not only in treating adolescent trauma victims, but in working with adolescents in general. This book is important reading for all of us who work with families affected by trauma and abuse and, to my mind, is a major contribution to the literature on children and trauma.

Violence and Mental Disorder : Developments in Risk Assessment

by John Monahan (Editor), Henry J. Steadman (Editor)

Begins the task of identifying risk markers, or prediction variables that can be used to predict more accurately whether a person with a mental disorder will be violent. The factors are presented in four domains: dispositional, clinical, historical, and contextual. Of interest to research psychiatrists and psychologists, lawyers, judges, and policy makers.

Physical Violence in American Families : Risk Factors and Adaptations to Violence in 8,145 Families

by Murray A. Straus, Richard J. Gelles

Results and analysis of 1975 and 1985 surveys. Concludes that the family home is a much more likely site of violence than any city street. Overall topics cover research techniques, incidence and trends, social psychology, family organization, the structure of society, coping and consequences, and stopping family violence.

Children Exposed to Marital Violence : Theory, Research, and Applied Issues (Apa Science Volumes)

by George W. Holden (Editor), Robert Geffner (Editor), Ernest N. Jouriles (Editor)

The Batterer : A Psychological Profile

by Donald G., Phd Dutton, Susan K. Golant (Contributor)

Drawing on his pathbreaking studies of more than 700 abusive men-as well as therapy with hundreds more-psychologist Donald G. Dutton here paints a dramatic and startling portrait of the man who assaults his intimate partner, such as admitted abusers like lawyer Joel Steinberg, sports celebrity 0. J. Simpson, and choreographer Peter Martins. With dramatic case histories that shed light on the dark secrets of spousal abuse, and with its singular focus on the personality of the abuser, rather than that of the victim, The Batterer provides the missing link to show how men can harm the women they love and how we can begin to put an end to violence behind closed doors.

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Many Faces of Family Violence

by Jerry P. Flanzer (Editor)

A resource for health care professionals.

Alternatives to Domestic Violence : A Homework Manual for Battering Intervention Groups

by Kevin A. Fall, Shareen Howard, June Ford

Trauma in the Lives of Children : Crisis and Stress Management Techniques for Teachers, Counselors, and Student Service Professionals

by Kendall Johnson

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Teaching Young Children in Violent Times : Building a Peaceable Classroom

by Diane Levin

Violent No More : Helping Men End Domestic Abuse

by Michael Paymar

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Education Groups for Men Who Batter : The Duluth Model

by Ellen Pence, Michael Paymar, Tineke Ritmeester, Melanie Shepard

Living With My Family

by Wendy Deaton

The author writes:

This workbook, along with My Own Thoughts and No More Hurt is part of an eight workbook series designed for professionals working with elementary school age children in a counseling setting. Living With My Family and No More Hurt are the original volumes and appear without illustration. Illustrated volumes include a boys version and a girls version of My Own Thoughts, dealing with nonspecific dysfunction such as anxiety, depression, school adjustment, psychosomatic complaints and self-esteem; A Separation in My Family, for children dealing with separation or divorce; Drinking and Drugs in My Family for children in substance abusing families; On Stopping the Hurt for children who have been physically or sexually abused, and Someone I Love Died for children dealing with grief and loss. These workbooks are unique in that they have been designed with the developmental process of therapy as the foundation for the unfolding sequence of tasks. Each workbook contains a page by page therapist's guide describing the purpose, value and meaning of the tasks, as well as suggestions for expanding upon the specific topic outlined by each task. New therapists, therapists who are unaccustomed to working with young children, and therapists seeking growth-oriented tools will particularly benefit from utilizing the workbooks. An additional benefit is that the workbook provides a vehicle for charting a child's progress and for demonstrating to apprehensive parents that the therapist has a goal and a plan for their child. To my delight as the originator, the Growth and Recovery Workbook Series has been repeatedly selected by Behavioral Science Book Club for promotion to the therapeutic community. In my own work as a therapist, I have found the workbooks provide an excellent vehicle for gentle confrontation relative to sensitive issues and an invaluable tool for keeping young clients focused on the therapeutic work. Comments and recommendations may be e-mailed to Wendy Deaton, JMAYTOE@AOL.com

No More Hurt - Paperback and Workbook

by Wendy Deaton

The author writes:

This workbook, along with My Own Thoughts and Living With My Family is part of an eight workbook series designed for professionals working with elementary school age children in a counseling setting. Living With My Family and No More Hurt are the original volumes and appear without illustration. Illustrated volumes include a boys version and a girls version of My Own Thoughts, dealing with nonspecific dysfunction such as anxiety, depression, school adjustment, psychosomatic complaints and self-esteem; A Separation in My Family, for children dealing with separation or divorce; Drinking and Drugs in My Family for children in substance abusing families; On Stopping The Hurt for children who have been physically or sexually abused, and Someone I Love Died for children dealing with grief and loss. These workbooks are unique in that they have been designed with the developmental process of therapy as the foundation for the unfolding sequence of tasks. Each workbook contains a page by page therapist's guide describing the purpose, value and meaning of the tasks, as well as suggestions for expanding upon the specific topic outlined by each task. New therapists, therapists who are unaccustomed to working with young children, and therapists seeking growth-oriented tools will particularly benefit from utilizing the workbooks. An additional benefit is that the workbook provides a vehicle for charting a child's progress and for demonstrating to apprehensive parents that the therapist has a goal and a plan for their child. To my delight as the originator, the Growth and Recovery Workbook Series has been repeatedly selected by Behavioral Science Book Club for promotion to the therapeutic community. In my own work as a therapist, I have found the workbooks provide an excellent vehicle for gentle confrontation relative to sensitive issues and an invaluable tool for keeping young clients focused on the therapeutic work. Comments and recommendations may be e-mailed to Wendy Deaton, JMAYTOE@AOL.com

My Own Thoughts : A Growth and Recovery Workbook for Young Girls

by Wendy Deaton

The author writes:

This workbook, along with Living With My Family and No More Hurt is part of an eight workbook series designed for professionals working with elementary school age children in a counseling setting. Living With My Family and No More Hurt are the original volumes and appear without illustration. Illustrated volumes include a boys version and a girls version of My Own Thoughts, dealing with nonspecific dysfunction such as anxiety, depression, school adjustment, psychosomatic complaints and self-esteem; A Separation in My Family, for children dealing with separation or divorce; Drinking and Drugs in My Family for children in substance abusing families; On Stopping The Hurt for children who have been physically or sexually abused, and Someone I Love Died for children dealing with grief and loss. These workbooks are unique in that they have been designed with the developmental process of therapy as the foundation for the unfolding sequence of tasks. Each workbook contains a page by page therapist's guide describing the purpose, value and meaning of the tasks, as well as suggestions for expanding upon the specific topic outlined by each task. New therapists, therapists who are unaccustomed to working with young children, and therapists seeking growth-oriented tools will particularly benefit from utilizing the workbooks. An additional benefit is that the workbook provides a vehicle for charting a child's progress and for demonstrating to apprehensive parents that the therapist has a goal and a plan for their child. To my delight as the originator, the Growth and Recovery Workbook Series has been repeatedly selected by Behavioral Science Book Club for promotion to the therapeutic community. In my own work as a therapist, I have found the workbooks provide an excellent vehicle for gentle confrontation relative to sensitive issues and an invaluable tool for keeping young clients focused on the therapeutic work. Comments and recommendations may be e-mailed to Wendy Deaton, JMAYTOE@AOL.com

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Domestic Violence on Trial : Psychological and Legal Dimensions of Family Violence

by Daniel J. Sonkin

Contributions from authorities such as Del Martin, Lenore Walker, Anne Ganley, and Mary Anne Douglas examine the legal and psychological aspects of the battering syndrome. Court mandated treatment of the batterer, court procedures, jury selection, expert witness, and determination of child custody are among the issues discussed.

Next Time, She'll Be Dead : Battering and How to Stop It

by Ann Jones

"A convincing and meticulously researched case that America's judicial, law enforcement, and legal response to the problem makes it impossible for women to live free from bodily harm."

--San Francisco Chronicle

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Domestic Violence Law : A Comprehensive Overview of Cases and Sources

by Nancy K.D. Lemon (Editor)

A unique and comprehensive collection of domestic violence law sources including published appellate cases and law review articles, but also selections from the fields of sociology, psychology and anthropology. Samples of current legislation, Congressional memoranda, restraining order forms and articles from the popular press, including newsletters and brochures from hard-to-obtain sources are included. Nancy Lemon has taught this course for almost ten years and has written many pioneering pieces of legislation in this area. The materials are comprehensive in examining different points of view on the subject of domestic violence and law. They help the student explore the tension between theory and practice, a critical point in teaching this subject. A historical perspective is given so that students can see both the ways the laws have changed over the last century and also the ways they have not changed. Domestic Violence Law lends itself to discussions of the role of the attorney in crafting the law, not simply following it. Designed principally for law students, Domestic Violence Law has much of value for women's rights and battered women advocates, and any interested non-specialist general reader as well.

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More Than Victims : Battered Women, the Syndrome Society, and the Law (Morality and Society Series)

by Donald Alexander Downs

A scholar criticizes the widespread view of battered women as helpless, passive victims--a view that deprives them of their standing as citizens--and shows how such women often clearly understand the dangers they face and their own needs.